Why it’s time to stop comparing yourself to others

Enjoy your own life…

How many times per day do you check social media to learn what your friends are up to? How many times do you find yourself envious of their vacation that you can’t afford, the partner you are without, or even the car they drive? Studies show that social media increases occurrences of depression as more people compare themselves to others and strive for a life that simply isn’t meant for them. Here are some things you can do if you are comparing yourself to others.

Get more sleep

First of all, invest in a nice, comfortable queen size bed that offers plenty of room to sleep. When you’re well rested, you make better decisions during the day, can better control your emotions, look better, have more energy, and you’ll feel better. Sleep does great things for our lives.

Stop comparing yourself to other people

The moment you stop comparing yourself to other people is the moment you gain new-found freedom that allows you to live life to the fullest. Far too many people concentrate on other people and their opinions. They allow other people’s thoughts and opinions to consume them, especially if they feel that others will not like them, their appearance, and sometimes, even their decisions. Living up to other people’s standards and lifestyles is not only tiring but prevents you from achieving full happiness.

Life is too short to compare ourselves to other people. What we see on the outside doesn’t always paint a clear portrait of a person or their life. You don’t know the steps the person took to reach their place in life. There’s so much left to wonder when you compare yourself to someone else. All of the time spent wondering about this other person takes time away from discovering yourself and becoming a better you.

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Focus on other people and compare yourself to them and you’re left empty and without the things that life has in store for you. It takes the focus from your happiness, the goals you’ve placed in life. But, exactly how can you stop comparing yourself to others or even developing a little jealousy when they have all of the things that you want?

Avoid triggers

Every single one of us has triggers, no matter how much those strangers online like to poke and prod about them. Know your triggers and make a conscious effort to avoid anything that takes you out of your world of calmness.

You are what you eat

Your diet plays an important role in your overall wellbeing. You’ll feel anxious if you consume lots of caffeinated products, for example. Lacking vital nutrients can also send your mental health on a whirlwind spiral. Aim to eat food from the major food groups and avoid too many processed foods, sugars, red meat, etc.

Exercise more

Aim to exercise at least 30 minutes each day. When you exercise, it improves your mood, helps you maintain heart health, and clears out brain fog. Plus, it’s easier to maintain your ideal appearance when you exercise and feel great about yourself.

Remember, things aren’t always what they seem

The golden rule to remember is that the grass is not always greener on the other side. Seeing a snapshot doesn’t equal spending a day in their life. Keep this in mind and it’s much easier to back away from your quest to be like someone else.

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Learn gratitude

Learn how to be grateful for the things that you do have. Some people would do almost anything to enjoy the luxuries that you now take for granted. Appreciate the loving family and friends that you have, the job and car that you’ve been blessed with, your mental and physical wellbeing. All of these things are precious gifts that we far too often take for granted.

Make a change and you’ll also discover it’s easier to stop comparing yourself to others.

About Jenna Brown

I'm a San Diego-based freelance writer and mother. When I'm not chasing my kiddos around or tapping away at the computer on my latest article, you can find me hiking, reading or lounging on the beach.