So the General Election has been and gone and we now know who the winners (and losers) are.
But did Ed Miliband lose the election based on his abilities or his looks?
Irrespective of his politics, when I hear that “People didn’t vote for Ed because he looks like a muppet”, and “His brother should have been given the job – he’s better looking”, it makes me wonder: how many of us women are on the receiving end of this kind of judgement every day?
Just because we don’t conform to other people’s expectations, or let’s be honest, their judgement about how we should look, should that stop us from even putting ourselves forward?
I shared my dream of becoming a make-up artist with someone a few years ago and her immediate reaction was “People like you don’t become make-up artists”.
Without even questioning it I put my dream on hold and got on with the day job, until I started working with a life coach who helped me to see past that judgement.
This other woman wasn’t a ‘bad’ person – in fact she was a bit of a gem. She just expressed an opinion in the heat of the moment, but the effect it had on me at the time was profound.
I wonder how many other women have aspirations that they’ve allowed to be crushed by what other people think…
How many times have you passed judgement not only on public figures, but unconsciously on your own colleagues, daughters, sisters and best friends, without realising its impact?
Grab life with both hands
Now I work as a life coach myself, my big question is: how many of your OWN dreams have you crushed by telling yourself “I’m too old / fat / not good looking enough / past it …”?
Life is precious. Author Mark Twain said: “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do”.
I dare you to dig deep and release just one of your dreams. Don’t judge yourself, or worry about others might think – if there’s a chance of making it happen, step up and give it a go – what have you got to lose other than 20 years of regret?
When you have passion in your heart and a twinkle in your eye, you connect with people at a different level, and how you look becomes less important.
Yes the judgers and doubters will still be there – just watch out that you’re not one of them.
By the power of your thoughts and words you can be a dream crusher, or a dream builder.