Surviving Valentine’s Day…
Valentine's is coming. If it's an occasion you dread, Rosalyn has some advice on how to survive...
Love actually? Or plain old domestic abuse?
Domestic abuse is more common than most of us realise...
What is true love?
Joan discusses Valentine's Day, martyrdom and true love and how they really show up in a relationship...
Carolyn Lazarus: A life fully lived
In memory of Carolyn Lazarus: a remarkable woman who lived life to the full. Totally4women.com was the dream made real by a remarkable woman, its founder and chief editor, Carolyn Lazarus. It is therefore with the utmost sadness that I have to tell t4w’s thousands of members, sponsors and friends that Carolyn passed away on […]
A funeral eulogy for Carolyn
The wonder that was Carolyn Lazarus. When Marc asked me to give Carolyn’s funeral eulogy I felt hugely honoured. Yet at the same time I was daunted by the prospect of giving a fitting tribute to the wonder that was Carolyn. For how can one do justice to someone as unique, courageous, joyous and life-enhancing […]
The Honey Hunter: wink, mail, stalk
I am losing the will to log-on. After Blue Eyes I seem to be being attacked by creatures from the dark. The dark I tell you! Breathe… Yes creatures from very very very dark places. Well, OK maybe not all of them but most… And then there’s Old Boho, who in fairness may not remember […]
The single woman: solo by choice
If you've ever spent any time during adulthood as a single woman, you will be familiar with this scenario...
Same-sex marriage: Introduction
We asked Lester Aldridge about same-sex marriage...
Same-sex couples marriage: fast facts
Lester Aldridge gives us the key facts about same-sex couples marriage...
The pain of separation
The sensation of strength. Feeling the fierceness of their protection, the tenderness of their hold. The warmth of skin that is not your own. The wonder and the miracle of each freckle, each eyelash like hair that brushes you. The feeling in your heart and your stomach and your mind. The belonging. The melting and […]
Domestic abuse: it was all my fault
Dee shares her experiences of teenage domestic abuse. I met him on my first day of college when I was 16. We got on very well and became good friends. He asked me out a couple of months later and we became inseparable. We always had a couple of hours to wait for our buses […]
Memorable gifts and chocolate hearts
Sometimes you can’t beat foil-wrapped chocolate hearts Somehow, after twenty-seven years of marriage the red roses and champagne element of my life is, shall we say, a little dormant, so when I sat down to write a piece for Valentine’s Day, my mind went a complete blank. The fact that the great day falls on […]
Dumped on Valentine’s Day
The most romantic day of the year - pfft - not if you've been dumped as often as Dee has on the Valentine's Day...
Leaving a partner you love
Contrary to popular belief, love does not always conquer all; choosing to leave a partner we are deeply in love with can be the hardest decision we ever have to make. Yet, when a relationship causes us more hurt than joy, it is a decision that ultimately serves us well and the pain of leaving […]
Do you want to find love?
Dreaming of finding love? Here are some tips that may support you in achieving your dream...