Personal trainer blog: confidence and control

Shami Chakrabarti is so interesting and such an amazing women. Shami said how important it is for us women to be confident without being arrogant. That set me wondering about how we gain confidence.

I reflected on when I feel confident and it’s at times when I know my subject well, so if I am about to teach I am well prepped and ready for questions. If I am cooking for a special occasion it’s when I know the recipe and know it works.

But its more than that, it’s more than subject matter; it’s about being confident about myself as a woman. What does that mean to me?

That’s a really interesting thought. I count myself as a feminist, I certainly don’t think that I need to conform to an imposed ‘norm’ of attractiveness to be confident, but I do think that I need control over my body.

I have been overweight and I kidded myself that that was OK – but deep down I knew that it wasn’t, not because I wasn’t super model slim, but because I knew I was eating when I wasn’t really hungry, that I was drinking until I had slipped past the enjoyable stage and entered into the quagmire of a befuddled brain.

I wasn’t OK because I wasn’t in control and with that lack of control came a lack of confidence in myself.

Its really important to me that we all get a chance to get that control of ourselves, to hold ourselves to account to do what we say we are going to do – if we plan to exercise, that we do it, if we intend to have a couple of alcohol free days a week, then we actually do that.

Over the next few weeks I invite you to walk with me as we explore ways to do this. Ways that together we can make a difference to the control that we have over our bodies.

Marion Foreman

About Marion Foreman

I fall neatly into the ‘women who weren’t born yesterday’ category. I grew up in a turmoil of Guardian fuelled feminism. I went from ‘little woman’ to independent person in a decade. I began my nurse training in the early 70s in the midst of a male dominated university town. I convinced myself that my views must be wrong as the ultra clever men didn’t agree with me. It wasn’t until I did my degree with the OU that I realised that I had a voice – and a legitimate voice at that. Four children and three husbands later I have found my place in the world. A place that simply says that I am who I am, that I can choose my own path in life and choose those who walk with me. I have learnt that equality means making and taking opportunities, not feeling compelled to ‘do it all’.