Same-sex families

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What is a ‘family’?

Image showing the familiesWhat would your answer to that question be? A married couple with two children? A single mum or dad and their child? A father, step-mum and his children from a previous marriage? Two lesbians with their donor-conceived child? Two gay dads and their surrogate child?

One thing is for certain, there is no short answer!

When legislation to allow same sex couples to enter into civil partnerships was debated, the government expected very few to actually exercise this right.

However, the uptake has far exceeded expectations, and the latest data published by the Office for National Statistics shows that the number of couples entering into civil partnerships in Britain rose by 6% in 2011, to 6,795. This may not seem like a huge number, but whilst marriage rates have been decreasing since 1972 (save for a small increase last year), civil partnerships are bucking the trend and are certainly not uncommon.

Despite more than 100,000 people entering into a civil partnership since they first became legal in December 2005, Stonewall (a charity who work for justice and equality for lesbian, gay and bisexual people) states that there is still a “limited acknowledgment that same-sex couples are capable of constituting a family, and that same-sex couples (and gay people who are not in a relationship) have children”. More worryingly, when lesbian and gay families are acknowledged it is often in a negative way with society not viewing their family as a ‘real’ family.

You may be part of a same-sex family, you may have friends or family that are part of a same-sex family, your children may have children in their class with two mums or two dads. Yet, despite couples entering into civil partnerships at a far greater rate than marriages, people still have limited knowledge about the law surrounding same-sex families.

Same-sex families in the eyes of the law

Two women in a same sex relationshipLegally, a gay or lesbian family is no more or less ‘real’ than a heterosexual family. The law does not draw any distinction between a lesbian couple undergoing fertility treatment and a married couple, and if a clinic did draw a distinction they could find themselves in trouble for discrimination.
Of course, a lesbian or gay couple could not biologically conceive a child through traditional means, but with fertility treatment and surrogacy arrangements being increasingly used by heterosexual couples and single people, the methods employed by same-sex couples to create their family cannot be considered unique.

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Furthermore, same-sex families are not new. In January 1972 Janis Hetherington became the first lesbian in Britain to give birth to a child conceived by artificial insemination, with her lesbian partner by her side. In 1999 Barrie and Tony Drewitt-Barlow became Britain’s first gay dads when they had twins with the assistance of a surrogate in California. Any child conceived after 6 April 2009 to a lesbian couple can automatically have both mothers registered on their birth certificate as the child’s legal parents.

Same-sex families are not a new phenomenon and they are certainly not any more or less ‘real’ than heterosexual families. Please visit our website for more information or check out our Fast Facts: Same-Sex Families.

The Lester Aldridge family team deal with these and other issues on a regular basis.

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About Lester Aldridge LLP

Lester Aldridge LLP is a nationally recognised law firm with offices in London, Bournemouth and Southampton. The family team are leaders in their field. Jane, Jo and Rosie are specialist family solicitors with a wealth of experience in all areas of family law from divorce to children, prenuptial agreements to the settlement of financial disputes and everything in between. These women are feisty when they need to be. But their approach is designed to reduce conflict in order to ensure the best possible outcome. They recognise that family issues can be extremely emotional and they offer access to specialist advice delivered in a friendly, approachable and understandable way designed to guide you from start to finish. If you would like an informal, no-obligation chat with Jane, Jo or Rosie please telephone 03300 539754.