It’s only me…

I pick up the phone and they do it again and again and again. “Hello, it’s only me …”

I want to shout out “Who the heck is ‘only me’? What are you doing to yourself? Why would you diminish who you are by saying such a thing?”

Woman poet by the seaIf I know the person well enough I do actually challenge them to change the greeting. I’ll tell them how prized they are to me and if I value them that much why can’t they do it for themselves? Is that shocking?

Maybe, but the words we use can unknowingly erode our self esteem and confidence. Your thoughts and words create your reality.

Change your words, change your mind, change your world. Are you up for that?

Okay, so how often do you utter these words?


What an ambivalent, sitting-on-the-fence kind of word that is! Where’s the intention or direction? I might give it a go. It might be okay. I might as well just forget about it!

Hmm, I don’t think so!


If you think it won’t happen well, you’re probably right. It’s a defeatist word that assumes you’ve lost before you even begin. Turn it on its head to ‘I’m open to the possibility’.


This is usual for us. I usually do it this way. How about letting yourself be open to trying things a different way?


Can’t be done! It’s impossible for me to do that. Shift your thinking a little by playing around with the word – turn it into I’m possible and, well, anything is possible!


I’m worried about x,y,z. Worry comes from imagining the worst that could happen by thinking ahead. And 90% of what we worry about never happens. Appreciate the now, this moment, because there’s no guarantee of what’s to come.


I need to do this before I can… Need is a procrastination tactic, a dream stealer and a justification for not beginning in case you fail.

Six words we all find ourselves saying over and over again. Next time you find yourself saying to a friend “it’s only me…” why not stop, rephrase your words and see what happens.

It’s time to stop letting your words define you… you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how liberated you’ll feel.

“She came to understand that her words mattered. When she spoke ill of herself, she felt badly about herself. When she spoke kindly, she felt more positively. So she looked in the mirror and promised herself she would speak kindly to her today… and every day!” Cindy Ratzlaff

Sally Canning

About Sally Canning

I’m a transformational coach and mentor to women, helping them move from “What the heck is it all about?” to a place of embracing life and actually loving who they are. I can help you easily let go of the feelings, thoughts, fears and limiting beliefs that keep you from living the life you truly want for yourself. Visit my website to find out more.