Mother’s Day seems to be getting more and more commercial, with old traditions being replaced with new – often more expensive – ones.
In the UK, Mother’s Day – or Mothering Sunday – traditionally falls during Lent where certain foods may have been given up. However, on Mother’s Day these were relaxed and the whole family would enjoy food, with the focus on spending time together eating.
But things seem very different now.
Cards for mum… and everyone else
When I was a child I bought a card and a token gift for my mum, and only my mum. Now it seems every year the range of cards and gifts available is extreme. You can get cards addressed on the front to ‘You are like a Mum to me’, ‘Stepmum’, ‘Aunty’, ‘Grandmother’, ‘Mum-To-Be’, ‘First Mother’s Day’, ‘Godmother’… and the list goes on. In fact, you can even get cards for Mother’s Day that are from the dog or cat!
To me, it all seems very commercial and false, rather than true and from the heart.
Personally, I don’t think it is necessary to buy cards or gifts for any other female relative or friend. Having said that, I do understand that family dynamics have changed over the years, so perhaps stepmum is acceptable in this day and age.
And the gifts are just as outrageous as the cards. I mean, what’s wrong with a small bunch of flowers, or breakfast in bed (even if the toast is burnt), or a picnic in the garden or a hand-made card? If you live further away from your mum, you could Skype so she gets to see you, or write an old-fashioned letter… something that has some thought in to it.
I don’t have any children of my own, but I am godmother to many of my friends’ children and I am also an aunty to my sister’s children. I’ve also ‘looked out for’ many younger adults who have said that I am like a second mum to them, but I don’t need cards or gifts to say thank you. It has been and is my pleasure to be part of their lives and help them become mature, sensible grown-ups.
Over the last few years I have received a ‘Godmother’ Mother’s Day card, and while I really appreciate the gesture, I do get the feeling that I only get them because I don’t have any children of my own.
I love my mum dearly and appreciate her giving birth to me and looking after me, and I like to think that I show her throughout the year that I appreciate her. I know she wouldn’t want me to get into debt by buying her something for Mother’s Day, so I won’t be splashing out on her, but I will be going to see her and taking a small gift. The main thing I want to do is to spend time with her, as I know that one day she won’t be there for me to see.
So, whatever your plans are for Mother’s Day, make sure you find time to thank your Mum for everything she’s done for you. If your mum is no longer alive, why not do something that you can remember her by?