Reaching 40 can feel like a milestone in many ways. But for some people, it can feel as though they don’t have anything to look forward to anymore.
Getting up and doing the same thing day in day out can leave you feeling uninspired and in low spirits. Letting this slump phase in your life stretch for too long could lead to depression as you age.
But don’t panic! There are plenty of ways to dig yourself out of the rut. Remember, your midlife years set the stage for your elderly years, so if you’re unhappy with your current life now is a great time to take action.
Here are my top tips:
Pursue a hobby
By the time you reach 40, your life can become mundane. Do you find yourself going through the same routine every day? Your brain needs to be stimulated to feel revitalised or you’ll remain stuck in a rut.
Both full-time mothers and career women will claim that doing something fun and interesting in life requires time, which they do not have. Ask yourself if that’s really true. It probably isn’t. It’s time to put the excuses aside and stop getting in your own way. Everyone can take a couple of hours out of their week to do something that leaves them energised and inspired.
The easiest way to make a change in your life is to pursue a hobby. Think of things you find interesting and find ways to incorporate them into your life. Do you like cooking? Try making a point to learn something new every week, whether it is a new dish or a new skill. Your brain needs to be challenged to remain young; research has found that staying mentally active can prevent Alzheimer’s.
Get out of your comfort zone
If you’re longing for change, you need to find some activities that aren’t part of your regular daily schedule.
New experiences will provide you with new perspectives. Have you ever tried conquering a particular fear? Did you notice how much courage you needed to muster up right before you do it? Well, this ability to be courageous will help you take up new challenges and risks that help you grow as a person. Breaking down that barrier of fear will open you up to so many more experiences and make you a stronger and healthier person.
Gaining new experiences allows you to take more calculated risks in the future.
Look after yourself
When you’ve told yourself that your best days are behind you, you’re inclined to neglect yourself. Yes, nature can take a toll on your face and body but you can still take pride in who you are and give yourself the proper care you deserve.
So many women complain about the way their bodies have changed over the years. If you are worried about your weight, why not do something about it? Regular exercise will help you feel good about your body and it will also enhance your mood.
Pampering yourself with a spa day controls and reduces chronic stress. Stress hampers your immune and cardiovascular system which makes you feel weak overall. Regular spa days may appear indulgent but you’ll find the benefits are worth it. You’ll feel relaxed on the inside and you’ll look better on the outside.
Transforming your appearance means giving your wardrobe a little attention, too. Throw away clothes that have worn out or are out of fashion. Try to incorporate lots of colours and a variety of styles into your revived look. When you go shopping, take risks by going for clothes that you wouldn’t normally buy. You just need to know how to style yourself and feel confident in it. If you don’t feel comfortable in low-cut necklines or the fact that it is backless then slip on a jacket – but don’t let it stop you from buying one.
Reconnect with your younger self
Notice how all the 40-something celebrities don’t look 40? Of course, they have money to spend on looking after themselves but their jobs require them to maintain their youth. They have a need to stay relevant which is what forces them to keep up-to-date.
If you feel old on the inside that is what is going to be reflected on the outside. You need to remind yourself of your younger days to help you reconnect with the energy you once had.
Try putting on some music from your youth. You’ll find refreshing past memories unites you with a more active, younger you. Research reveals that nostalgia promoted self continuity and reignites feelings of vitality.
The same can be done by looking at old photographs or enjoying meals from the past that evoke memories that you hold dear. Experts suggest that revisiting memories that trigger nostalgia serve as a psychological immune response that can comfort you when you are feeling low in spirits. On this note, it’s also a good idea to rekindle relationships with people from your past.