Hold yourself accountable

What is the best way to hold yourself accountable?

Two friends talking on a bench looking out to seaSo, now you know your priorities, and you have a plan. How are you going to hold yourself accountable? What are you going to do next? It’s all very well writing your plans down, but how do you stop it from just being some sort of academic exercise? Another page of forgotten promises to self?

My suggestion is this: tell someone.

Find a friend / a coach / a supporter and commit to making a difference in your life. This is a very powerful tool in holding yourself accountable. Our reluctance to feel embarrassed is even greater than our reluctance to get on with the plan. So go ahead, and tell someone about your plans.

If you are going to lose a stone, what do you need to do this week towards that? If you say you will go to the gym three times and work through a whole programme of exercise, who will know? The skill here is to hold yourself to account. Discuss with your ‘helper’ and say what you are going to do. Then do it. After that, you can celebrate that you did it. And if you didn’t? Well, work out why not and what you will do differently next week.

I know, from working with many clients, that this iterative process can become embedded into your everyday dialogue and you will soon be thinking, ‘I said I would …… and I haven’t, so why not?’ And even better,

I said I would …….. and I have!

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Marion Foreman

About Marion Foreman

I fall neatly into the ‘women who weren’t born yesterday’ category. I grew up in a turmoil of Guardian fuelled feminism. I went from ‘little woman’ to independent person in a decade. I began my nurse training in the early 70s in the midst of a male dominated university town. I convinced myself that my views must be wrong as the ultra clever men didn’t agree with me. It wasn’t until I did my degree with the OU that I realised that I had a voice – and a legitimate voice at that. Four children and three husbands later I have found my place in the world. A place that simply says that I am who I am, that I can choose my own path in life and choose those who walk with me. I have learnt that equality means making and taking opportunities, not feeling compelled to ‘do it all’.