Don’t let menopause steal your bedroom mojo…

Menopause can be a difficult time for many reasons. It can affect everything in life, both at work and at home, including your sex life.

Many women find that their desire for sex starts to wane as they go into menopause. Studies show that up to three-quarters of women feel their sex drive has reduced since entering midlife, and more than 50% report they can’t have an orgasm once the menopause hits.

Tiredness, lack of energy and mood swings can put a dampener on the most solid relationship. At the same time, falling levels of oestrogen can result in the lining of your vagina becoming dry and uncomfortable. A staggering 70% of women suffer with vaginal dryness and report it having a significant impact on their ability to be sexually active.

When the vaginal tissues dry out, penetration can become painful and, in extreme cases, they may tear and bleed. But you don’t need to suffer in silence and it doesn’t have to be this way. There are plenty of things you can do naturally to repair the vaginal lining, encourage the cells to produce fluid again and rekindle your libido.

  • Take phytoestrogens
    Start replacing the missing natural oestrogen with phytoestrogen foods. Consuming 100mg of isoflavones per day will help to fill the receptor sites so that the brain is fooled into thinking that there is oestrogen in the body. Plants such as Red Clover, Maca and Sea Buckthorn are great phytoestrogens that can help to relieve vaginal dryness.
  • Use lubricant
    Try using a natural lubricant or natural oils such as Vitamin E, coconut or even sweet almond oil.
  • Drink plenty of water
    If you’re dehydrated, lubrication is going to become a problem for your body so drinking plenty of water is key.
  • Indulge in foreplay
    When you feel ready, gentle regular sex will get your vaginal juices flowing. Spending plenty of time on foreplay, since it can take longer to become aroused, will also help with any dryness.
  • Try prescription-strength treatment
    There is prescription strength hormone cream available as well, which may be a last resort if you can’t find something else to treat your problems with vaginal dryness.
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Your life doesn’t have to be miserable and your sex life doesn’t have to end just because you’re dealing with vaginal dryness. There are many things that you can do to end the dryness and reclaim your enjoyable and comfortable sex life.

Once the dryness is sorted you will feel more like being sexually active, find your mojo again, put the smile back on your face and the twinkle in your partner’s eyes.

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About Maryon Stewart

I'm an author of 27 books on women’s health, hormones and PMT. I regularly host free masterclasses helping women through menopause.