Letting your star shine for events and celebrations

We’re just entering the run-up to Christmas, a time of multiple events and celebrations. Christmas means many things to many people, including joy, spirituality, giving and sharing.

zodiac in the starsHowever, every year I hear people bemoaning its commerciality and watch them become increasingly stressed, as events and tasks get piled on over the weeks and days. There comes a point when I get just as swept up in all the madness as the next person and by the time Christmas Day comes it’s a wonder if there haven’t already been several almighty rows at home or heated moments in shops and car parks, as some sort of fever to have a happy time reaches a crazy pitch, and the happy time seems suddenly out of reach.

It occurs to me that we each bring certain, individual behaviours towards how we handle big events and celebrations that require some preparation and that what is in our birth charts – the mix of the 10 planets in the 12 zodiac signs – often describes these quite well.

Positive and negative traits in the signs

As regular readers of these columns will probably already realise, I subscribe to the idea that there are positive and negative traits in all of the signs and the planets that have rulership over them. By rulership, I mean that each zodiac sign has one or two planets naturally associated with it, which have a special relationship with the sign and which we might describe as its guardians or keepers.

Astro-logic goes that those planets are extra important for the person with the related signs more predominant in their chart – and those will often be planets that I focus on more in an individual astrology reading. When we know about the qualities associated with the planets we can often understand the signs at a deeper level, too.

Sometimes, it’s enough just to know what the sign traits are, in order to grasp what’s going on within ourselves in a specific situation – and to pinpoint ways in which we can enhance our best characteristics and let go of anything that’s making our lives difficult. It may depend on accepting that – unless we have had an astrologer pinpoint the key signs in the chart – we don’t already know which sign traits are operating so spectacularly, although we may all know our ‘Sun sign’ (our birth sign) because it is easy to work out so long as we know our birth date. In the table below I lay out the corresponding dates, signs with some of the key, trickier traits, along with suggestions of alternative approaches/antidotes that can provide relief from those tougher aspects – the bits that can sometimes get us into trouble.

Discover the antidote for your traits

Traits, in and of themselves, can be helpful in the right context, of course, and usually if not overdone. As an example, the Sun was in Virgo when I was born and, like many of my Virgo friends, I have a tendency to go into perfectionist overdrive. This is ok where it makes sense, but it can also mean that I get lost in details around larger events. My perfectionism can also put everyone around me on edge if I’m not careful, because they get nervous about getting things wrong under the gaze of my high standards.

If I’m honest, I can be quite temperamental with my pickiness. It’s then so easy to lose the bigger picture and for the spirit of the event to vanish, when I fuss too much over every little thing. So, to make things calmer, more pleasant and more fun, I’ve been experimenting with relaxing more, trusting that the event will come together and handing over certain jobs to others – whilst stopping insisting they do them all perfectly.

Whilst the Virgo part of me might still want to veer into being critical of the outcome, what I think of as the ‘fuller’ part of my nature – which can be described by a broader mix of sign and planetary characteristics in my chart – can see that events do indeed come together just fine without all of my fussy intervention. That they automatically take on the nature they are supposed to have and that people usually enjoy them just as they are.

Letting go of worry and perfectionist obsession has been giving me a greater sense of inner satisfaction and I’ve had more chance to indulge an inner need for calmness, composure, pleasure and appreciation. When I come from that place in my approach to life, everything seems to go so much better.

I can’t absolutely promise that this will work for every single person, but perhaps, in the list below, you will recognise an approach that you secretly sense makes life more complicated or painful and perhaps the antidote will appeal.

Sign Birth Days Tricky Issues Alternative / Antidote
Aries 20 MAR – 19 APR speed, innovation, impatience keep spontaneous, buy traditional gifts
Taurus 20 APR – 19 MAY procrastination, over-providing set a budget, keep it simple, start sooner
Gemini 20 MAY – 20 JUN packing in multi options, exhaustion pick a number of events, stop spinning
Cancer 21 JUN – 21 JUL worrying about everyone els focussing on own needs and preferences
Leo 22 JUL – 21 AUG over-dramatising, panicking envisaging happy outcomes, relaxing
Virgo 22 AUG – 21 SEP perfectionism, cleaning obsession doing things reasonably well, hiring help
Libra 22 SEP – 22 OCT anxiety or irritation over appearances keeping to simple regimes, connecting
Scorpio 23 OCT – 21 NOV getting lumbered with people’s mess ducking and diving, sidestepping any mess
Sagittarius 22 NOV – 20 DEC entanglements in grand schemes handing over and moving on to freedom
Capricorn 21 DEC – 18 JAN never giving up, even on bad situation invest in a white flag and have a decent rest
Aquarius 19 JAN – 17 FEB aiming for the win-win in all directions letting people fight their own battles
Pices 18 FEB – 19 MAR losing track of the plan, time, space… making lists, seeking and setting reminders

Remember, be it your Sun sign or someone else’s that you find it listed under: we each usually have more than one sign highlighted in the birth chart – and it’s the antidote that’s the gift.

Diana McMahon Collis

About Diana McMahon Collis

Diana McMahon Collis is a freelance, professional writer and consulting editor, astrologer and tarot reader, with over 26 years experience as an expert in the mind body spirit and health fields. She began writing for the media in the Docklands in 1990 and has been widely published across a range of digital and print outlets. Diana holds a BA honours degree in Film, Drama & English, from Reading University and is a non-fiction editor with WritersWorkshop.co.uk, the UK’s leading editorial agency. Her certified training, in modern and traditional astrology, was completed in London in 1996 with the Company of Astrologers, after which she went on to co-found TABI, a national association for tarot practitioners, where she has trained and mentored readers and sits on a review panel. She has created weekly, regional radio material and worked as the in-house astrologer for various newspapers and magazines, including Manchester Evening News, Birmingham Evening Mail, Chester Evening Leader, East Anglian Daily Times, Observer Preview magazine, Easy Jet's monthly in-flight magazine and the glossy, 5-star resort title, Spa World. In 2012 she began providing a weekly tarot talk and readings to clients in the ‘Wellbeing’ division of Champneys Forest Mere, Hampshire's famous health spa resort. She is currently working on a number of publishing projects and continues to provide a private, spiritual consultancy practice online. She maintains a blog at Celestialspot blog, and details for arranging personal email and Skype readings are detailed on her website at Mindbliss.co.uk.